01731nam a2200181Ia 4500 231116s9999 xx 000 0 und d 97803102553380310255333 eng BV4597.53.C58 .C59 2003 Cloud, Henry Boundaries Face to Face : How to Have that Difficult Conversation You've been Avoiding / Henry Cloud and John Townsend Grand Rapids, Mich. : Zondervan, 2003 266 p. ; 21 cm. Part I : why you need to have that difficult conversation -- The conversation can change your life -- The benefits of a good conversation -- Part II : the essentials of a good conversation -- Be emotionally present -- Be clear about "you" and "I" -- Clarify the problem -- Balance grace and truth -- Stay on task -- Use the formula, when you do "a," I feel "b" -- Affirm and validate -- Apologize for your part in the problem -- Avoid "shoulds" -- Be an agent for change -- Be specific -- Differentiate between forgiving and trusting -- Part III : seeing how it's done -- Telling people what you want -- Making someone aware of something -- Stopping a behavior -- Dealing with counterattack and other problems -- Part IV : getting ready to have the conversation -- Why you need to get ready -- How to get ready -- Part V : having the conversation with people in your life -- With your spouse -- With someone you're dating -- With your kids -- With your parents -- With your adult children -- At work -- With people in authority. Conflict management Religious aspects Christianity.Conversation Religious aspects Christianity.Interpersonal conflict Religious aspects Christianity. Townsend, John 0 0 0 0 GETS GETS GEN 2023-11-21 0 BV4597.53.C58 .C59 2003 00032167 2023-11-21 14:47:40 2023-11-21 BK 50644 50644